OP, does your wife want an SUV in the sense of a 4×4 for off-road purposes or in the sense of a big vehicle for soccer-mom type stuff? Is she the kind to trade vehicles every couple of years, or is she looking for something to last her 10 years or more? It's hard to beat Hondas or Toyotas for longevity, but if she is likely to be in a different vehicle in 2 years anyway, I'm not sure that longevity is worth the premium.
I don't know where you live, but if snow/ice is an issue, Subaru's AWD system is about as good as it gets. During hunting season, I go up some pretty gnarly looking snow-covered forest service roads. When I get to the trailhead, it's not unusual to see a couple of near-monster trucks parked there - along with a Subaru Outback or two. Lol. Subaru has a new SUV, the Ascent, that is their largestUK SUV yet.